Equating self-care with entertainment or temporary fixes makes light of women’s real needs.
Please understand, I’m not belittling spa days and chocolate. I love them too.
I’m saying that we need a clear concept of self-care for women.
We need to understand our real needs. We need to know that chocolate, while delicious and fun to eat, does not in any way meet our needs. Spa days can be one small component of a fulfilling life, sure. But the fact that when people think of women’s self-care, it tends to be manicures and fluffy robes that come to mind, is a problem.
Because it obscures the fact that women’s real needs are very frequently not being met. And why is that?
Of course you should have enjoyment and relaxation in your life. I’m saying that self-care is so far beyond that.
So when we see things like treating yourself to chocolate or taking a relaxing spa day in articles and blog posts that are claiming to be about women’s self-care, it’s frankly insulting.
It’s a tool of abusers to tell you that your needs are selfish and unnecessary, that they can be ignored endlessly because someone else’s needs are more important. So why are women’s genuine needs for health and growth being categorized —…
